Find New Strength: 3 women who survived breast cancer
[PAGED_GALLERY] [GPAGE] Lesya Koroleva [/ GPAGE]
When my hair began to fall out after chemistry, I went to my husband and said: “Shave me, I don’t know how to use the machine!” Later, when the treatment was behind, he admitted that it was one of the worst moments in his life. And without hair, I suddenly felt like a fighter. I was like a soldier Jane!
My youngest son was six months old then, and I got out of the decree part-time. I was still breastfeeding and once I discovered a pea in my chest. Everyone said: “Don’t worry, you are breastfeeding! It’s just milk accumulated. ” But my intuition apparently worked. I thought for ten days, read what they write on the Internet, and decided: I need to run to the doctor. The doctor advised me to do an ultrasound just in case. Then I “just in case" went to the oncologist, then they did a puncture. I went around several institutions, but everywhere doubted the diagnosis: outwardly, it looked like an ordinary fibroadenoma, and tests showed cancer. Now I understand that in such cases it is very important to do additional research, otherwise a person may die.
To dispel doubts, I decided to write a letter to Israel, to a state clinic. They answered me very quickly, oriented on prices - it turned out that this is not such sky-high money, as is commonly thought. I bought a ticket and flew away. There they confirmed the diagnosis and had surgery.
Many told me: “How so? One, without support ... ”But, by and large, I felt that I had to deal with this problem myself. It was enough to know that the husband and mother take care of the children, and I am going to specialists who can help. Rather, support was needed for my family and friends. After all, everyone thinks about the patient, but forget about the people who surround him. And they are also very difficult! My eldest son, who is not yet five years old, once said: "Mom, I do not want you to die." So, he also feels and experiences everything!
I was struck by how sober people in Israel treat treatment: you have a problem, and the doctor immediately tells you what steps to take. This helps not to lose the presence of spirit. But the unknown usually gives rise to black thoughts.
I had a small but very aggressive tumor, and the treatment was difficult. I remember, before starting chemotherapy, a nurse sat with me for two hours and told me what to do in case of side effects. These practical tips also helped a lot. If you know what to do, then you are ready to solve any problem.
Chemistry is a difficult thing, but it is important to perceive it as a blessing, because it is a poison that kills cancer cells. In Israel, they recommend last and foremost to lie and suffer. Yes, it's hard for you, you feel bad. But feeling unwell is in many ways a problem for the head, and if you take your head and get distracted, it becomes easier. Once I even went to a wedding on the day of chemotherapy and, by the way, had a great time!
I think if you want to live, you can overcome a lot. I had a goal - to live, because for small children no one can replace my mother.
Fortunately, at work, they treated my situation with understanding. At first, I had a flexible schedule, and when the most difficult chemistry sessions were over, I went full time. I work for an international pharmaceutical company, where everyone understands what oncology is, and my colleagues tried to support me.
My Israeli oncologist says that in order to recover, it is very important to do what you like - not to suppress desire, not to compromise with yourself.
Someone says that diseases are given for sins. Perhaps this is so: many of us committed acts that were destructive. And my actions now relate to internal development. I tune in to physical and moral improvement and try not to miss a single opportunity. Now for me, the values that are called eternal are important: love, mutual understanding in the family, the health of loved ones. In words, many consider this important, but living in such a way that it is manifested not only in thoughts but also in actions is a special art.
[GPAGE] Tatyana Novikova [/ GPAGE]
I did not hide the fact that I had breast cancer. I sincerely do not understand: why are many afraid to talk about this? Are heart diseases less dangerous? Is diabetes, because of which people have their legs cut off at a certain stage, less serious? I am a realistic person and also an optimist. A mutual assistance group is very active in our region, and I say to the new ones: “There is nothing supernatural in our disease. It is necessary to approach it pragmatically: you have been diagnosed, which means you need to be treated. ” That’s how I myself feel about what happened. I had no tantrum when I found out about the diagnosis. And even immediately after the operation, I ran around the ward, supported those who were nearby.
As I remember myself, I flew and fluttered through life. We can say that after the operation I really found my calling. I have such an energy potential that I did not know where to direct it before. Now I have such a direction - I became a volunteer of the charity program "Women's Health" and help women who are diagnosed with breast cancer. And when the patients who underwent surgery say “thank you,” it’s like a balm for the soul. When you realize that you could support someone, it is such a blessing!
We have to answer a variety of questions that women do not have time or are embarrassed to ask a doctor. What can I eat during treatment? Do medicinal herbs help? What to wear after surgery? It is often easier for them to communicate with me than even with my closest friend. After all, I suffered the same disease - I understand them and can talk heart to heart. Of course, I lack legal knowledge. Recently there was such a situation: a woman underwent a complicated operation, but she is denied a disability group. How to be To answer such complex questions, we are going to involve a lawyer and a professional psychologist in the work of the “hot line”.
[GPAGE] Lyubov Magunova [/ GPAGE]
I never thought this would happen to me. In any antenatal clinic, posters hang that call for regular examination. But, when I accidentally discovered a tumor in my chest, I was overcome by animal fear. For about four months I did not say anything to anyone and was very afraid. I immediately intuitively realized that I had cancer.
When I had the courage to consult a specialist, many doctors said that it was too late to be treated. But I was determined and insisted that I would fight. I cursed, argued with doctors, but the operation was postponed because the tumor was quite extensive. They started giving me chemotherapy to compress it. Improvements came immediately, but the fracture occurred after the fifth chemistry: the doctor said she would insist on surgery.
After the diagnosis, many have a great reassessment of values. Previously, I had in the first place material values: work, money, housing, now I need to get ... Now the priority is completely different - I try to devote more time to my family, give as much as possible to my 14-year-old daughter.
I felt such a thirst for life that I try to catch everything! People I know say, “You haven’t been so active before!” I am surprised: it seems to me that it has always been this way. Maybe now my true character has manifested? We bought a car, I got a license, and now, together with the girls, we get into the car and go for a walk. You could say I have an even more active lifestyle than before.
Girls are friends whom I have acquired in a mutual assistance group, where the leaders are the women themselves who once underwent treatment for breast cancer. The support you receive in the group is very special: you don’t need to explain how you feel. They understand you perfectly, help with advice. Now I myself actively participate in the work. It takes 15 minutes to receive a patient, can a doctor have time for everything during this time? We tell women about how to be distracted, how to talk with relatives and doctors, provide psychological assistance. After diagnosis, many have questions: “For what? Why me?" But they only drive into depression. We talk about how important it is to accept a diagnosis, to realize that this is not a sentence - then a surge of strength arises!
We work with the administration of the oncological clinic. In many cities, volunteers are not allowed into hospitals, but we have no such problems. Together we celebrate holidays, arrange field trips - we do everything so that patients do not lose their taste for life.